Parenting & Relationship Therapy Online Across Missouri
Finally feel good Just as you are.
In the important relationships in your life, it feels like you’re falling short.
No matter how hard you try to please your romantic partners, your boss or colleagues, or your children, it always seems like you’re missing the mark. Even so, you give as much of yourself as you can to everyone else—meanwhile your wants and needs fall by the wayside. You don’t know why you keep running in circles trying to make others happy, but when you miss the mark and can’t be “perfect”, your first thought is that something must be wrong with you.
Maybe you’ve been struggling with…
A recent life change—like a new job or role, new stage of parenthood, financial concerns, or loss of a loved one
Feeling anxious about every interaction you have and decision you have to make
Feeling overwhelmed with responsibilities, and maybe a bit resentful, but still unable to say “no” when things are asked of you
Feelings of sadness, grief, or shame about the versions of your life that didn’t come to fruition
Being unable to feel close to your kids, or feeling like they’re too clingy or overly emotional
Traumatic experiences from childhood coming up in your memory more frequently—like emotional, physical, or sexual abuse
My approach
Walking together on a path to peace and resilience.
In the work we’ll do, we’ll sort through which parts of your relationships are your responsibility, and which aren’t.
If you’ve been taught that making others happy is your “job”, then it can be easy to fall into a pattern of taking on more than you can handle. The feelings that come along with this pattern—resentment, anger, frustration, overwhelm—are a natural reaction, and you shouldn’t be ashamed of them. Instead, through our work, you’ll learn to notice these feelings and listen to what they’re trying to communicate to you.
We’ll practice this together, as well as tools and skills you can use to navigate these feelings, and to set yourself up to feel them less often in the future. We’ll also examine important relationships from your past—with your parents, other family members or authority figures, ex-romantic partners, and friends—to discover how these formative connections could be impacting you in the present. Because trauma that was formed through relationships can also be healed through relationships, and we’ll work together to make sure you have what you need to experience that healing.
Please know that you don’t have to ever feel ashamed of what you bring to our sessions. I’m here to empower you to grow into the best version of yourself, and show you that you deserve the same grace and understanding you give to others in your life—which means you’re welcome here exactly as you are.
You’ll walk away from therapy with…
The ability to set boundaries
Learn to be clear about your expectations, needs, and how you’d like to be treated, so you can honor and support your best self and best life.
Understanding your story
Connect the dots of your past and understand how those experiences have influenced and impacted you throughout your life.
Self-compassion
Be kind to yourself in the present and retroactively, and truly believe that you’ve done the best you could with what you’ve had.
Self-care practices
Be able to care for yourself the way you care for those around you, and make sure your own needs are met before taking on the needs of others.
Communication skills
Say what you mean, even in high-tension situations, and learn tools that will help you respond rather than react.
Hope for the future
With the feeling of being supported, you’ll realize you’re not alone in this, and be able to see that life can be joyful again.
It’s time to take care of you.
Because you deserve compassion, too.
Frequently asked questions
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Absolutely, therapy can greatly improve relationships. It gives you a toolbox of ways to better communicate, understand others’ feelings, and build trust. It's not about blaming anyone, but instead about finding ways to communicate your boundaries and respect the boundaries of others.
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Attachment issues often stem from early experiences, like how caregivers responded to our needs as babies or children. These experiences shape our expectations and behaviors in relationships later in life. Through therapy, you can understand the root of your attachment issues and learn how to engage in relationships with others in a healthier way.
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Attachment starts forming from the get-go, even in infancy. Whether or not we feel safe and secure with our caregivers sets a blueprint for future relationships. Therapy can help you deconstruct this blueprint and be conscious of your attachment habits in the future.
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Not typically, but we will discuss your relationship with your child or children at length. We can explore techniques and approaches that you’ll practice with them at home, and then report back with what your experience was like, and we’ll make adjustments based on the specific situation.