Bobi Spilker, MS, LPC, NCC
In Person & Online Psychotherapy for Women across Missouri
It’s time to restore balance & reclaim hope.
A better tomorrow awaits.
Maybe you'd stop feeling so
stressed,
anxious,
frustrated,
depressed,
if only you weren’t constantly overwhelmed by all of life’s responsibilities.
On paper, it might seem like your life adds up to the ultimate success story. You’ve achieved a lot in academics and your career, and have the partner or family you always wanted. But still, it feels like if you can’t be “perfect” 100% of the time, it means you’re a failure—and the voice in your head is critical of your every move.
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The same things come up time and time again. Maybe one specific incident lingers in your memory or nightmares, and you feel weak for still being bothered by it. Or maybe there’s no singular memory that shows up, but instead, a feeling from long ago that you still carry with you—despite your best efforts to leave it behind. Either way, you wish you could actually feel present in your life without those burdens constantly weighing on you.
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You’re worried you’ll do something to ruin it. You’ve managed to keep all the plates spinning in your adult life so far, but always feel like it could all come crashing down at any moment. Though you want to break the cycles you’ve watched yourself go through emotionally, you feel like you’ve tried everything you can think of to no avail. It’d be nice to be able to stop time and reassess, but you’re just too busy, and too many people are relying on you to keep everything afloat.
Lately, you’ve felt ashamed of some of your reactions to conflict or upset in your relationship, with your kids, or at work. Maybe you feel like you don’t recognize the person you’re becoming—or don’t understand how it got to this point—and don’t know if you can trust yourself to make the right decisions moving forward.
you are not broken. healing is possible.
Hi, I’m Bobi.
I want to empower you to find the strength within.
Therapy with me is always a safe place, where we’ll work together to achieve your goals—using your strengths and my best knowledge and insights.
I like to explain it as placing all your feelings, thoughts, worries, fears, and past experiences on the coffee table between us. Then, we’ll slowly examine one at a time, get curious about it, and explore it. We’ll take ownership of what belongs to us, but we won’t take on any shame. Those that don’t belong to us, we’ll lay at the right owner’s feet.
I’ll guide you to notice what you feel, honor what is important to you, and let go of what no longer serves you. We’ll find ways to reinforce your strengths, rally support, comfort your hurts, and celebrate your victories. The goal is to be fully at peace with who you are, capable of self-compassion, and skilled in self-care—with an acceptance of the past and hope for the future.
You don’t have to live life perpetually overwhelmed, and you definitely don’t have to go through this alone.
Specializing in…
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Whether it’s your romantic relationship, your relationships with your boss and coworkers, or those with your family or children—you feel like you’re the one doing all the heavy lifting. Though you know you’re stretched too thin, you still can’t seem to say “no” when these people ask things of you. As a result, you feel a resentment building, which shows up in your interactions and reactions.
Together, we’ll explore these relationships, and I’ll empower you to set boundaries that will help you be the best version of yourself and practice the self-care you need to feel more balanced in your day-to-day life.
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Maybe recent life changes—like a divorce, new stage of life, career change, or a loss—have exacerbated the anxiety you already felt. Or maybe you’re not totally sure why your mind keeps running in circles, you just know you want it to stop. You’ve found yourself taking these feelings out on the people around you, and wish you had more control over how you react.
Therapy can help you connect the dots to discover the “why” of your anxiety, and give you the tools to cope with stress when it arises. Once you’re able to break free from self-doubt, you’ll be able to make decisions for yourself with confidence and respond more thoughtfully to those around you.
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When you’re already overwhelmed and overloaded with the responsibilities of work, relationships, and parenting, the idea of taking time away for yourself can seem impossible. If you’re ready to feel hope and joy again without setting aside an hour every week for the foreseeable future, therapy intensives may be what you’re looking for.
Like a fastpass at a theme park, therapy intensives allow you to spend less time waiting for an opening and grant you access to select spots based on your preferences, schedule, and needs. You’ll be able to experience profound transformation on an accelerated timeline that is flexible to your life.
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I know just how complex the issues surrounding becoming a parent can be. Whether your faced with fertility concerns, you’re a parent who has recently adopted a child or recently given a child up for adoption, a person who was adopted or in foster care, or someone who recently discovered something about their identity that came as a surprise—I know there are so many challenges that can arise and past feelings that can resurface over and over again.
Together, we’ll hold space for all of the feelings you’re having, and explore avenues that will allow you to find balance. I want to help you be at peace with your past and who you are, so you can feel hopeful about the future.
Get the support you need to transform your life.
Click the link below to access my contact page, where you can get in touch via phone call, text message, or email. I’ll respond promptly to find an appointment time that works for you, and get it scheduled. My practice is fully online, which means you can experience healing from the comfort of your own space anywhere in Missouri. I look forward to hearing from you, and to the transformative work we’ll do together!